What is hurt? Hurt is something that we avoid and we want to run away from. It isn’t a good feeling and yet every now and then we all are being prey to it. Sometimes we let ourselves be hurt by people, situations or times and sometimes these things deliberately hurt us, in both the cases the pain is ours and we are the ones left to deal with it.
We have always had these notions around us ‘no pain no gain’ and so on. But no schooling nor college or the most most amazing parents in the world prepare us to face hurt/pain. Everyone knows it is obvious, it is ‘normal’ and difficult to handle but no one, no one unless one day when you are aware enough to ask for it and go to a spiritual guru/psychologist who could tell to how to decode it.
I am not saying that i have an answer, i really don’t. But having myself gone through a tough phase these last two months, where i really had to try hard for this feeling to not get better of me, i asked – why were we never taught this? Shouldn’t this be the first thing that every child should learn when he / she joins school? Because some day you will break a leg or a head, or you might have to visit a dentist or you might have a break up, you will have to lose a game or a dear one, you might be unhappy with the way your country is or other 100 things going wrong in your life. Pain and hurt are parallels to ones life and we all need help to know what that really means and how we can work around it in our own individual ways.
Personally i am still learning how to balance out these feelings. Sometimes i do good and sometimes i fail miserably. If it’s something small i tend to solve it and if it’s bigger than what i think i can handle i run away from it. What i have noticed like famously quoted in Fault in our Stars – Pain demands to be felt. So noticing it, registering it might help towards understanding it, which is easier said than done.
I am working on my idea of ‘how to deal with pain – effectively’, let me know if you know any anecdotes to the same.